You hear it all the time—don’t read to much into other peoples lives. After all, you really don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors. Nevertheless, it does seem as if some people move seamlessly through life—from one expected stage to the next. Others, however, struggle to experience even the most basic and essential of what life is supposed to offer. Having, friends, a life partner, a family, a successful or meaningful career—or even simple joy and contentment are out of reach for so many. When you follow the rules and do the best you can, and nothing seems go your way, how do you keep going?
There’s a reason terms like “Monday Motivation” and “TGIF” make popular hashtags. Tedious work, horrible bosses, and a frustrating commute lead to stressed and unhappy employees. We look forward to days off and transform into miserable, cranky beings as the hours wind down drawing us closer to another workday. Today, a mundane event reminded me that there are lessons all around us that can impact the way we look at life and what we consider to be problems.
What do you do when nothing works—when everything is falling apart, and there seem to be no options? Well-wishers, motivational speakers, friends, and family, offer advice like: have faith, pray, or send positive thoughts into the universe. However, if year after year, nothing changes, what do you do?
While we enjoy many advantages that those before could have never imagined, there is a yearning for the days gone by. It’s common to hear people speak of “the good old days.” It’s no wonder that retro-based TV programming is finding so much success today. There are reruns, the current trend of “reboots,” and even the creation of shows set in the past like Netflix’s Stranger Things or ABC’s The Goldbergs. The viewing audience is hungry for memories of a “simpler time.” So, just what’s the matter with the world that’s creating the need for this kind of escape?
Watching the news can be the worst activity for anyone trying to preserve any semblance of positivity. If you’re struggling with depression or negative thoughts, it might be a good idea to tune in to something else. You want to keep abreast of what’s happening in the world. You want to know if aliens are landing so you can take appropriate action—right? However, you might just have to rely on friends or family for breaking news when reality gets to be a little bit too much to handle.
Imagine you’re at the beach and floating or treading water. You put your feet down expecting to touch sand. Instead, you find yourself sinking. During your panicked flailing, you get glimpses of the shore and realize you’re not where you’re supposed to be.